Do you think business and motherhood don’t match? Being a single mom, a woman and trying to succeed in online business doesn’t feel right? Being a single mom and entrepreneurship is too risky???
Well, the only thing that doesn’t feel right and is really risky is being a single mom of three kids, working full time on somebody else’s business, running around, feeling like a racehorse, being always stressed and tired, having no time nor money for yourself, kids or hobbies and never try succeeding in your own business, business you love. That’s what it is.
But what it takes to have your own voice in this masculine digital world, to build your online business while being a single mom, a woman? Can a woman be ever as successful as a man?
I don’t know the answer. And I don’t really care either. I just know I had to try it anyway. Not to prove anyone right or wrong, but I had a need for self-expression. I had a need to make my voice stand loud & clear and be heard by the people, and not necessarily only women, that could resonate with my story, that could associate their life struggles with mine, that could find some inspiration and courage within themselves to be able to change their life too; or to wake them up.
I was always told that being very emotional as I am, does not belong to a business world. That as a woman and being vulnerable, emotional, chaotic or anything that femininity can bring, could be my weakness and is damaging for any business. I was always told “no emotions, no feelings”.
But lately I understood that exactly those characteristics and qualities are strong tools for a successful business, not only an online one. 50% of the population are women at the end of the day. And these women don’t want to hear only about superheroes and about how everybody else is better than them. They want to hear the truth, they wanna feel normal even when today they don’t feel like eating healthy or looking sexy. Even if today they feel tired, feel like curling up and crying just because…, because the cycle, no other reason, blame the cycle and the hormones that we can’t fully control or understand. They want to hear that it is OK not to be OK sometimes and it is ok not to feel your happiest today even though there might be no real reason for it.
And I can tell you, despite being an emotional and strongly intuitive woman, you can start your own business and succeed. I can tell you, that exactly those characteristic are my strengths, not my weaknesses, that I build my business on my emotions and am proud of it. It is really OK to be a woman, a mom to three, four… kids and still dream about independence, career and freedom.
For me it felt very strange to be exposed at the beginnings. It felt like I was taking my clothes off in front of strangers. I felt vulnerable and slightly embarrassed talking about my intimate life, my weaknesses, my children, a failed marriage, bad choices of careers or any failures and fears. It wasn’t something I felt immediately comfortable with. But I over-passed it. I decided to concentrate on people whom my stories can help or inspire rather than annoy or bore. And with this main thought and with the first reactions to my articles I started to write more and more. Focusing on people that I can help became my fuel. Even my emotional side and weaknesses followed and turned into fuel.
It is OK to be vulnerable. We all are at times. Who more, who less. It is OK to admit you could do with help, that you are not a superwoman who can take it all. It is OK to start your own business or change your life regardless of your age, family status or circumstances.
(Yes, the family status which is still a mandatory field in some application forms. Why? Why would I need to state that I am divorced? When nobody asked me if I was happy, when I filled in “married”. Why should the status matter?)
I am proud to be vulnerable and emotional cyclic woman, it makes me who I am. It is my trademark and I am going to make the most of it. It is OK to bring emotions and intuition into business and I actually very much hope the emotions can be felt strongly in my work. As long as I feel every emotion that there is I know I am alive and I use them to guide me in my life instead of trying to suppress them or control me.
Being a woman, being a mom, being emotional as I am, I am still building an online business and nobody can talk me out of it. And I’ll use all my feminine tools to be able to be of value, to help others, to be successful and help others to succeed too.
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